So what’s your Big Vision for your Wedding?
Are you recently engaged or finally getting down to the nitty gritty of planning?
Take time at the outset to work out exactly what it is that the two of you want.
This might sound obvious but it’s easy to get carried away with the excitement. You might find yourselves listening to the ideas and suggestions, and sometimes potential interference, of everyone else, without checking in with each other and what is truly important to you.
There are bound to be differences
For a start you will each have different families, histories and ‘norms’ around weddings. You may find your own ideas are very different from each other. Don’t you want to find this out from the start and work together to agree a shared vision, or perhaps two different parts, rather than end up debating it in front of family or friends?
Once you know you are on the same page, it becomes easier to explain to others. You will be clear about what you want for your day, but also why. Just because you might be told ‘all of your cousins had big, elaborate family celebrations’ doesn’t necessarily mean that’s your plan.
Begin with the key decisions
- What sort of ceremony do you want?
- Where in the world will you get married?
- Who do you want there?
- What will it look like?
- Really importantly, what will it feel like?
When I’m coaching brides, I take them slowly through a long, guided visualisation exercise. Brides quite literally envision the whole day as they wish it to be, from getting ready, through every element of the day, right up to leaving the celebrations and waving goodbye as a newly married couple. It’s important to think about how everything will look, smell, feel and be.
Perhaps sit somewhere quiet and run through your own day. It really helps clarify your wishes and can assist you in explaining your choices to others. You may say, for example, ‘I only want a small ceremony, with those I feel very close to there, because I’m nervous and want to feel I’m only with those who really support and love me’.
Always envision your day as you want it, leaving out any niggles or concerns. You want to get the picture of your perfect day in your mind, not those things you don’t want to happen.
Combined with images you gather on Pinterest or elsewhere, the more often you do this, the more confident you will feel in your plans and your reasons why.
Have fun pulling together your Big Vision and feel confident in communicating your reasons why to everyone.